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Middle East Vacation

I recently took a vacation to the Middle East.  It’s probably not often you hear someone tell you they’re going to that part of the world to vacation.  In fact, friends and co-workers first response was  – why?  But I was determined to go for several reasons. One – I have a cousin who’s married to a Saudi and has lived in Saudi Arabia and Bahrain with their two daughters for many years.  Two – I’m  adventurous and wanted to see the life-style first hand.  And three – why not.  Turns out this vacation was an awesome experience on so many levels. 

I spent time in both Bahrain and Dubai.  The Kingdom of Bahrain is a tiny island on the Persian Gulf perched between the countries of Saudi Arabia and Qatar. It is made up of about 4 cities that seem to run together. Dubai is in the United Arab Emirates and is two countries over from Bahrain. 

When I arrived in Bahrain I was overwhelmed at how beautifully unique it is.  Lots of palm trees, very little grass, plenty of desert sand and lots of gulf water.  The island is highly populated with several million people and the downtown buildings are gorgeous especially when lit up at night. My cousin and her husband picked me up at the airport in the city of Manama and we drove to their home.  They are a middle class family with a live-in house keeper and a driver.  Families over there sponsor people from other countries like the Philippines to come there and work for them.  The laws are much different and they don’t pay as much as we would pay for services like that.

While I was in Bahrain I did some sight seeing – and there is a lot to see and do. But I also had a chance to observe some of their traditions and customs.  For example – one night I went to a party where both men and women were invited.  The men stayed in one location while the women partied in another.  The women and girls socialized, ate and danced together. It was very festive.  Bahraini women love to dance – at least this group did – and some of them even belly-danced. (Yes, I tried).  But when the men were ready to enter the party we were told we needed to cover.  As an American woman I did not have to cover but I did to follow along with their tradition.  The women wear what’s called an abaya – which is a long black robe that covers all of their clothing and a scarf to cover their hair.  Only a couple women covered their faces entirely.  Once the men left, the women uncovered and went back to dancing. The only time I observed men and women dancing together was if they were of the same family. Not once did they eat together during the party.
 
There was only one other time that I covered and that was at the Souq – a large market where you can buy just about anything. Had I not covered I would have stood out like a sore thumb and may not have walked away with some pretty good deals. But for the record, women aren’t forced to cover in Bahrain – they wear regular clothing – and unlike some of their neighboring countries women are allowed to drive.
Midway through my trip my cousin and I hopped on a plane to Dubai. It took a little over an hour to get there.  The city is over the top for sure.  One of the shopping malls has a large ski resort inside – yes real snow – with ski-lifts.  You can buy or rent ski equipment and gear. There are several restaurants surrounding the ski resort so you can dine and watch people ski.  It’s something to see – don’t forget Dubai is in the desert.  What I saw of the city was decadent and breathtakingly beautiful. It is also home to the tallest building in the world – the Burj Khalifa.  The elevator takes you up 124 floors in 60 seconds.  Once you get to the top the view of the city is no less than spectacular. The real highlight though was getting back into Bahrain.  Little did I know my two week visa became null and void when I left the country.  So when I returned I was detained at the airport.  While that might sound scary it was really an adventure for me.  I discovered I was being detained for two reasons.  One –  I no longer had a visa  to enter the country and two – I wrote on my entry form that I was a news reporter and they thought I was there to cover protests.  In fact, they had just kicked a reporter out of the country for covering the protests.  Once I made them understand I was vacationing and not working I was free to enter.  Turns out that night we drove through an area where people were indeed protesting.  Police fired tear gas and protestors had rock piles to throw at police.  I found that exciting too. Blame it on the news reporter in me.
I could easily write a book about this trip.  I have so many things to tell you, like how my luggage didn’t arrive until day 5 of my 8 day vacation.  How my 1,500 U-S dollars was the equivalent of 564 Bahraini dinars (thank goodness for the AmEx). And how I had some of the best food I’ve ever eaten.
 
If you haven’t perhaps you should consider going to a place you’ve never been before.  A safe place of course – but a place that takes you outside your comfort zone. I think back on those who asked “why?”   Indeed there are countries in the Middle East I would probably avoid and others I would love to see.  And I would go back to Bahrain and the United Arab Emirates in heartbeat.  



 
 
 
 

It Just Doesn’t Go Away

August 2012 I wrote an entry in this blog titled “These Three Words”.  The three words are simple…

It gets better.

The story stemmed from an unexpected encounter I had with a woman who had just lost the love of her life – her husband of many years.  It seemed her grief was getting the best of her so I simply said “its gets better.”

Honestly, this journey is not for the faint of heart.  I often find myself adding up the years, the months and sometimes the hours – since that night cancer sucked the life out of my only child.  I watched her lay in bed and struggle to breathe.

I watched as the breathing became shallow

then more shallow

then not at all.

I laid beside her trying to talk her through the process of dying.  Not that I have experience with these things but like a mom I wanted to try to make it easier for her.  I tried to comfort her with words – with the sound of my voice.  She was not alone.

It is a night that is etched in my memory and will stay there until I reach the point where I am unable to think, remember and feel.

I look back and think about that day I spoke to the grieving woman.  Those three words I said to her are true.  I cry less.  I am now able to talk  about my daughter  in complete coherent sentences without falling apart.  In many of those conversations

I smile.

I laugh.

I feel good talking about her.

And I love when people allow me to do so – to talk about her.   Sometimes a brief chat can take the edge off a difficult day.  Reminiscing  is good therapy.  And it feels so much better when it’s not done in solitude.

Yes, it really does get better.  It just doesn’t go away.



A True and Meaningful Purpose

March 2014 marked the third anniversary of my daughter Queah’s (pronounced Quaya) death. Like so many of you who have lost people close to you, I have spent the last three years trying to find ways to properly honor her. She had the ability to touch people in positive ways. There’s part of me that wants people to know that her life had meaning. I am sure you can relate to that.

The first death anniversary I was mostly in shock – still in disbelief that she was gone. In fact, I was expecting her to walk in the door at any time and say “Mom, I’m sorry I left”.  That first year I simply gave a donation in her name to a charity. The second anniversary I vowed to do something I thought was really meaningful.  Before she died she wore wigs to compensate for what chemotherapy had done to her hair.  So that year I went out and bought several wigs and donated them in her name to a local hospital. While many of my friends said it was a wonderful thing to do – I did not get the feeling I was hoping for – especially since the hospital had a stockpile of wigs already. Little did I know they had all shapes, sizes, colors, textures, lengths – you name it – they had it. I drove away from the hospital that day feeling so defeated.

I remember when we first found out Queah had colon cancer.  She forced me – and I do mean forced – to do a couple of TV news stories on her and her battle. I thought it was way too personal but I reluctantly agreed. I honestly didn’t have much of a choice – she was never the type to take “no” for an answer. She believed it was imperative to warn young people – those in their 20’s to not be fooled that colon cancer is only a disease for older people. She wanted me to use her as the example.  Looking back, she was right considering she was misdiagnosed a couple of times and when the cancer was finally recognized in the late stages doctors were surprised by her young age – barely 27. Even during some of her sickest moments she would tell people young and old not to be afraid to get screened.

Months ago I went to Austin Kellerman, my news director at Fox16 and asked if we could do a series of stories on colon cancer in March. I thought it would be a good time to educated people to the signs, symptoms and dangers of the disease. And yes – also a good time to remind people that my little girl was diagnosed so very young with no known family history. I also thought it would be a good time to let people to know that I am beginning to see many others under the age of 50 – when most medical insurance will pay for screening – getting this disease. As we talked about it, Austin suggested maybe we could do news stories and much more to raise awareness. He was right.

On Saturday March 29th at 10am Fox16 and I sponsored a community-wide free yoga event. It’s affectionately called “Donna Terrell’s Yoga Warriors Fighting Colon Cancer. Queah began doing yoga during her illness because it made her feel better. Some Cancer Hospitals offer Yoga for free as a way to release stress and get exercise.  While the event was free we accepted donations for the American Cancer Society. Breezy Osborn from Barefoot Studios donated her time to conduct the Yoga class and Lululemon Athletica in The Promenade in West Little Rock supported our efforts. We had cancer survivors, people who lost loved ones to cancer and people young and old participating.  We raised over $2100 dollars for the American Cancer Society.  Finally, a purpose.  A true and meaningful purpose.

Maybe you were able to watch all of my colon cancer awareness stories on Fox16 News. I met several survivors of this disease young, old and in between.  I met and interviewed oncologists, gastroenterologists and surgeons who echo the same message – colon cancer is the most treatable disease if caught early. They remind me that we’re all in this fight together. I know in my heart Queah would be thrilled that we’re making a difference.  We’ll do it again next year and every year after.


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